there was a reason that i wanted to elope. the reason was because i didn't want to deal with any kind of family drama from either of our families. my mom was fine with this. she understood. mike didn't even want to think about it though because he knew that his parents would flip out. so its because of his closeness with his parents that we are having this wedding. i'm so thankful that my mom has been minimally involved and understands that i'm not thrilled about having this big affair so when i'm not blabbing about details everyday it's ok with her.
well this past week all of the drama that eloping would have avoided came crashing down on us. mike's parent's flipped. this past sunday we met them for breakfast. mike's mom told mike that he was going to have to invite his 7 year old (ill-behaved, rude, undisciplined) cousin to the wedding. we are having an adults only ceremony and reception and mike told his mom that. she proceeded to give him a guilt trip saying that he had to invite him because that was his cousin (they don't even have a real relationship) and that his aunt and uncle won't be able to get a babysitter etc. etc. i don't even know what the end of that conversation. there was no resolution, it was just dropped. mike called his mom later that night to reiterate to her that david would not be invited. she had the audacity to tell him that this was "the only thing i have asked for" when it came to our wedding. well #1 that is an outright lie. she asked for us to play 2 slow italian songs at our reception. then she asked to make me a hankie to carry in my purse. then she wanted to make mexican cookies for the rehearsal dinner. so that there is 3 things she has already asked for. #2 she has no right to ask for anything! this is MY wedding and things are going to be done the way that i want them to be. she should be happy enough that her son was adamant about having a ceremony for her to attend. if i had my way she wouldn't be attending anything. they fought about this child for 2 days. his mom tried every which way to make him feel guilty enough to cave. she told him that she was going to have to live with the repercussions of this and that if david can't come then his other cousins (who are 18) can't come and wont be welcome in her house, etc. etc. She seemed to have forgotten that her other son didn't even invite ANY extended family to either of his weddings.
after the child argument his dad called and demanded for our guest list and mike sent it to him. this pissed me off also. i told mike that he needed to find out why he needed this. mike called his dad the next day and his dad told him that the list was needed because he was going to SEND OUT INVITATIONS FOR THE REHEARSAL DINNER. what the mother f! first off, how the hell would he know who to invite by looking at our list. secondly, invitations don't need to be sent out for this! mike told his dad that and his dad told him to email him who should be attending and also what kind of menu we wanted. we did so and when mike called him to verify that he got it his dad was still pissed off! he told mike that he going to invite other people and that he was supposed to be taking care of the menu etc. and if we wanted to have a say in it then we needed to take it over completely.... i know this sounds stupid but the way he was acting was completely uncalled for. they were being outright rude, sarcastic and trying their hardest to make mike feel guilty for not letting them meddle like they wanted.
i have been through 2 weddings with them from his brother. i have witnessed first hand the way they would talk about him and his soon to be wife. i know for a fact that those same conversations were being said about me and about mike. this whole debacle has made me see them in a whole different way. i have lost a lot of respect for them and our relationship will never be the same.
i knew that this would happen, esp. from his mother. it's just crap!!!
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