getting married is stressful. my emotions are all screwed up and the slightest thing just sets me off. mike and i have also fought more about this wedding than we ever have about anything else. his parents are the biggest issue still. his mom told him that the reason she was being so difficult was because she "missed their relationship" and she can't "take care of her little boy anymore." ok get over it, he is 30 years old and has been taking care of himself for the past 10 years. he also still had a good relationship with her until she went crazy on us. i still haven't seen his parents since easter sunday when they were so rude and deliberately trying to get at us. we were supposed to see them this weekend for mother's day but they canceled at the last minute to go to charlestown. apparently everything has been rescheduled to this coming weekend. we'll see.
we changed our menu again. asian food now! rice bowls with chicken or beef and veggies, dumplings and fortune cookies. we're paying homage to our honeymoon haha! i think it will be something different and fun and hopefully still tasty!
we also ordered our invites this week. i had a livingsocial coupon for $50 off and it somehow ended up almost doubling so for only $147 we got: invites and envelopes, rsvp cards and envelopes, thank you cards and envelopes, return address labels and a tote bag. not bad at all!
vacation next week. it's MUCH needed. the weather forecast doesn't look great but it will still be good to just get away for a while.
Wednesday, May 11, 2011
Monday, April 11, 2011
flyin' first class, up in the sky, poppin' champagne...
well at least the champagne part is true! look at what mike did for me this weekend!
he got us a killer deal this weekend at the ritz in charlotte and made everything perfect by this sweet gesture! i think the best part of the room was the tv in the bathroom mirror. i have to have one of these! i seriously need to stop getting the taste of the "good life" though- it's so addicting!
charlotte was a great time actually. i was dreading what i always dread when we go down to visit but everything ended up being great! we had such a great time. the epicentre in charlotte is awsome! i had never seen the area before and i think it might even be new. it was charming and i fell in love... as in i could see myself living there haha!
our whole point of going down was to get our wedding bands. i dropped the ball on mike when we were on our way down that i wanted 2 bands, one for the top and one for the bottom. i didn't think that he would go for it but he did and i am getting 2 bands that match the band of my engagement ring. we picked out a pattern for him that i love also. i can't really describe it except that it has a double cable pattern and it's white gold. much better than the paisley pattern he originally wanted! they should be here in 3-4 weeks. i can't wait!
he got us a killer deal this weekend at the ritz in charlotte and made everything perfect by this sweet gesture! i think the best part of the room was the tv in the bathroom mirror. i have to have one of these! i seriously need to stop getting the taste of the "good life" though- it's so addicting!
charlotte was a great time actually. i was dreading what i always dread when we go down to visit but everything ended up being great! we had such a great time. the epicentre in charlotte is awsome! i had never seen the area before and i think it might even be new. it was charming and i fell in love... as in i could see myself living there haha!
our whole point of going down was to get our wedding bands. i dropped the ball on mike when we were on our way down that i wanted 2 bands, one for the top and one for the bottom. i didn't think that he would go for it but he did and i am getting 2 bands that match the band of my engagement ring. we picked out a pattern for him that i love also. i can't really describe it except that it has a double cable pattern and it's white gold. much better than the paisley pattern he originally wanted! they should be here in 3-4 weeks. i can't wait!
Thursday, April 7, 2011
girls trip
nyc weekend was a blast! it was the epitome of a girls trip.
this is us at the standard hotel bar. it's called the boom boom room and through we had no trouble walking in, apparently its not usually so easy.
3 glasses of wine cost us $80 and i have never seen so much chanel in my life, except at the store of course. the view from here was amazing. i can't wait to go back! i felt like i was in an episode of gossip girl. cheryl also got a meeting set up here: http://580worlddiamondtower.com/ to look at diamonds with an acquaintance. they had to fingerprint us and copy all our id's before letting us leave the lobby. i didn't realize until after we were leaving what this building actually was.
we shopped all day, and partied (like celebs?) all night. we even got into a completely exclusive club under the kenmare resto: http://kenmarenyc.com/
us at the jane hotel ballroom
when we got back from nyc mike surprised me with my wedding necklace
i was shocked that he went and got it for me! it's going to look perfect with my dress.
mike's parents are still acting like a-holes. weddings are so stressful.
this is us at the standard hotel bar. it's called the boom boom room and through we had no trouble walking in, apparently its not usually so easy.
3 glasses of wine cost us $80 and i have never seen so much chanel in my life, except at the store of course. the view from here was amazing. i can't wait to go back! i felt like i was in an episode of gossip girl. cheryl also got a meeting set up here: http://580worlddiamondtower.com/ to look at diamonds with an acquaintance. they had to fingerprint us and copy all our id's before letting us leave the lobby. i didn't realize until after we were leaving what this building actually was.
we shopped all day, and partied (like celebs?) all night. we even got into a completely exclusive club under the kenmare resto: http://kenmarenyc.com/
us at the jane hotel ballroom
when we got back from nyc mike surprised me with my wedding necklace
i was shocked that he went and got it for me! it's going to look perfect with my dress.
mike's parents are still acting like a-holes. weddings are so stressful.
Thursday, March 10, 2011
i should have listened to my gut
there was a reason that i wanted to elope. the reason was because i didn't want to deal with any kind of family drama from either of our families. my mom was fine with this. she understood. mike didn't even want to think about it though because he knew that his parents would flip out. so its because of his closeness with his parents that we are having this wedding. i'm so thankful that my mom has been minimally involved and understands that i'm not thrilled about having this big affair so when i'm not blabbing about details everyday it's ok with her.
well this past week all of the drama that eloping would have avoided came crashing down on us. mike's parent's flipped. this past sunday we met them for breakfast. mike's mom told mike that he was going to have to invite his 7 year old (ill-behaved, rude, undisciplined) cousin to the wedding. we are having an adults only ceremony and reception and mike told his mom that. she proceeded to give him a guilt trip saying that he had to invite him because that was his cousin (they don't even have a real relationship) and that his aunt and uncle won't be able to get a babysitter etc. etc. i don't even know what the end of that conversation. there was no resolution, it was just dropped. mike called his mom later that night to reiterate to her that david would not be invited. she had the audacity to tell him that this was "the only thing i have asked for" when it came to our wedding. well #1 that is an outright lie. she asked for us to play 2 slow italian songs at our reception. then she asked to make me a hankie to carry in my purse. then she wanted to make mexican cookies for the rehearsal dinner. so that there is 3 things she has already asked for. #2 she has no right to ask for anything! this is MY wedding and things are going to be done the way that i want them to be. she should be happy enough that her son was adamant about having a ceremony for her to attend. if i had my way she wouldn't be attending anything. they fought about this child for 2 days. his mom tried every which way to make him feel guilty enough to cave. she told him that she was going to have to live with the repercussions of this and that if david can't come then his other cousins (who are 18) can't come and wont be welcome in her house, etc. etc. She seemed to have forgotten that her other son didn't even invite ANY extended family to either of his weddings.
after the child argument his dad called and demanded for our guest list and mike sent it to him. this pissed me off also. i told mike that he needed to find out why he needed this. mike called his dad the next day and his dad told him that the list was needed because he was going to SEND OUT INVITATIONS FOR THE REHEARSAL DINNER. what the mother f! first off, how the hell would he know who to invite by looking at our list. secondly, invitations don't need to be sent out for this! mike told his dad that and his dad told him to email him who should be attending and also what kind of menu we wanted. we did so and when mike called him to verify that he got it his dad was still pissed off! he told mike that he going to invite other people and that he was supposed to be taking care of the menu etc. and if we wanted to have a say in it then we needed to take it over completely.... i know this sounds stupid but the way he was acting was completely uncalled for. they were being outright rude, sarcastic and trying their hardest to make mike feel guilty for not letting them meddle like they wanted.
i have been through 2 weddings with them from his brother. i have witnessed first hand the way they would talk about him and his soon to be wife. i know for a fact that those same conversations were being said about me and about mike. this whole debacle has made me see them in a whole different way. i have lost a lot of respect for them and our relationship will never be the same.
i knew that this would happen, esp. from his mother. it's just crap!!!
well this past week all of the drama that eloping would have avoided came crashing down on us. mike's parent's flipped. this past sunday we met them for breakfast. mike's mom told mike that he was going to have to invite his 7 year old (ill-behaved, rude, undisciplined) cousin to the wedding. we are having an adults only ceremony and reception and mike told his mom that. she proceeded to give him a guilt trip saying that he had to invite him because that was his cousin (they don't even have a real relationship) and that his aunt and uncle won't be able to get a babysitter etc. etc. i don't even know what the end of that conversation. there was no resolution, it was just dropped. mike called his mom later that night to reiterate to her that david would not be invited. she had the audacity to tell him that this was "the only thing i have asked for" when it came to our wedding. well #1 that is an outright lie. she asked for us to play 2 slow italian songs at our reception. then she asked to make me a hankie to carry in my purse. then she wanted to make mexican cookies for the rehearsal dinner. so that there is 3 things she has already asked for. #2 she has no right to ask for anything! this is MY wedding and things are going to be done the way that i want them to be. she should be happy enough that her son was adamant about having a ceremony for her to attend. if i had my way she wouldn't be attending anything. they fought about this child for 2 days. his mom tried every which way to make him feel guilty enough to cave. she told him that she was going to have to live with the repercussions of this and that if david can't come then his other cousins (who are 18) can't come and wont be welcome in her house, etc. etc. She seemed to have forgotten that her other son didn't even invite ANY extended family to either of his weddings.
after the child argument his dad called and demanded for our guest list and mike sent it to him. this pissed me off also. i told mike that he needed to find out why he needed this. mike called his dad the next day and his dad told him that the list was needed because he was going to SEND OUT INVITATIONS FOR THE REHEARSAL DINNER. what the mother f! first off, how the hell would he know who to invite by looking at our list. secondly, invitations don't need to be sent out for this! mike told his dad that and his dad told him to email him who should be attending and also what kind of menu we wanted. we did so and when mike called him to verify that he got it his dad was still pissed off! he told mike that he going to invite other people and that he was supposed to be taking care of the menu etc. and if we wanted to have a say in it then we needed to take it over completely.... i know this sounds stupid but the way he was acting was completely uncalled for. they were being outright rude, sarcastic and trying their hardest to make mike feel guilty for not letting them meddle like they wanted.
i have been through 2 weddings with them from his brother. i have witnessed first hand the way they would talk about him and his soon to be wife. i know for a fact that those same conversations were being said about me and about mike. this whole debacle has made me see them in a whole different way. i have lost a lot of respect for them and our relationship will never be the same.
i knew that this would happen, esp. from his mother. it's just crap!!!
Tuesday, February 22, 2011
it's been a while
i'm a terrible blogger. it's not that i don't enjoy it, it's that i never have any time to spend on it. so what have i been doing...
i decided that i had to have a wedding planner. i hired cheryl's friend brooke. she's been great! she has definitely been keeping me on track! it's nice to know that she is going to be there on the big day and ensure everything runs smoothly!
we booked our wedding cake! we got it from www.fluffythoughts.com my office had ordered cupcakes from here before so i knew that the cakes at least tasted good. when mike and i went for the tasting the owner (lara) was amazing! she took the ideas that we had and came up with an amazing sketch. he flavor combination's were fantastic! she was even on food network last week for one of their cake challenges! we will have a 3 layer cake similar to this:
the coloring and flowered decorations are obviously completely different but the squared design is the same. our top and bottom layers will be marble cake filled with chocolate ganache, vanilla butter cream, caramel and krunchies. the middle layer is a white cake with passion fruit puree, blackberry butter cream and fresh strawberries. yum. i still haven't decided on the design of mike's grooms cake. all i know is that the flavor will be red velvet!
we also booked our dj, purchased our save-the-dates and... BOOKED OUR HONEYMOON! i'm overly excited about it! we are going to go to bali and hong kong. it's a long story as to how we came up with this trip and it's not worth getting into. we leave from dca on sept. 12, have a layover in chicago, then arrive in hong kong at 8pm on the 13th. we stay in hong kong for 3 days. on the 16th we make our way to bali! mike found an amazing resort for us: http://theroyalsantrian.com> we stay here until the 21st. coming home is a total of 32 hours travel time! we go from bali to hong kong to vancouver to jfk then finally get back on the 22nd.
i also finally found my shoes! i have been looking for blue designer peep-toe flats since i got engaged. i was about to give up hope on finding all of that criteria in one shoe. then i found these:
how perfect! they were also almost half off the original price. yay me!
oh and i also purchased my dress and picked out bridesmaid dresses. you think i would have mentioned this first! maybe i'm just an odd bride.
now it looks like we can really start concentrating on the details. decorations, flowers, gifts...
i decided that i had to have a wedding planner. i hired cheryl's friend brooke. she's been great! she has definitely been keeping me on track! it's nice to know that she is going to be there on the big day and ensure everything runs smoothly!
we booked our wedding cake! we got it from www.fluffythoughts.com my office had ordered cupcakes from here before so i knew that the cakes at least tasted good. when mike and i went for the tasting the owner (lara) was amazing! she took the ideas that we had and came up with an amazing sketch. he flavor combination's were fantastic! she was even on food network last week for one of their cake challenges! we will have a 3 layer cake similar to this:
the coloring and flowered decorations are obviously completely different but the squared design is the same. our top and bottom layers will be marble cake filled with chocolate ganache, vanilla butter cream, caramel and krunchies. the middle layer is a white cake with passion fruit puree, blackberry butter cream and fresh strawberries. yum. i still haven't decided on the design of mike's grooms cake. all i know is that the flavor will be red velvet!
we also booked our dj, purchased our save-the-dates and... BOOKED OUR HONEYMOON! i'm overly excited about it! we are going to go to bali and hong kong. it's a long story as to how we came up with this trip and it's not worth getting into. we leave from dca on sept. 12, have a layover in chicago, then arrive in hong kong at 8pm on the 13th. we stay in hong kong for 3 days. on the 16th we make our way to bali! mike found an amazing resort for us: http://theroyalsantrian.com> we stay here until the 21st. coming home is a total of 32 hours travel time! we go from bali to hong kong to vancouver to jfk then finally get back on the 22nd.
i also finally found my shoes! i have been looking for blue designer peep-toe flats since i got engaged. i was about to give up hope on finding all of that criteria in one shoe. then i found these:
how perfect! they were also almost half off the original price. yay me!
oh and i also purchased my dress and picked out bridesmaid dresses. you think i would have mentioned this first! maybe i'm just an odd bride.
now it looks like we can really start concentrating on the details. decorations, flowers, gifts...
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